Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Writing for the Major

          When I was in middle school, I fell in love with writing. I would look forward to my teachers explaining how paragraphs were formed and proper organization of an essay. My English teacher from 6-8 grades, Mr. Moeckli, inspired me to pursue my writing beyond his class. He had me keep a journal of my favorite passages from the books we were reading, almost like a dialectical journal but he never graded it. Every night I would find a moving sentence from The Giver or Lord of the Flies and discuss its meaning and my interpretation. At the end of each month Mr. Moeckli would collect my journal and comment on the grammar or spelling mistakes. He never gave me a grade, only constructive criticism that I can still remember. When I reached high school, I longed for his feed back and belief in me because my new teachers fell short. Public high school teachers did not have the time to pay special attention to me or nurture my fondest of writing in ways that Mr. Moeckli had done at my small private middle school. The classes were a breeze but I did not grow in ways that I had hoped. We read the same material I had already read in previous years and learned more confusing essay structures. The Jane Schaffer Paragraph was my least favorite method that teachers seemed to constantly ask for in our writing. My paragraphs were more advanced than that technique but I was graded down because I strayed from the format. Soon I found myself unconsciously writing with less control over my words than I had done in middle school. It was not until my A.P. English Language class that I regained my style and honed my writing. Two years were seemingly wasted on faulty techniques that promote a simplistic standard of writing. I didn’t think my middle school knowledge was too relevant until May of 2009. I was in a large gym taking my last AP Test of high school: AP English Literature. I was not too nervous because I had an A in the class but the test was going to be difficult to pass. I finished the multiple guess, the first two essay questions and began reading the last “Outside Knowledge” prompt. I blanked. It asked us to analyze the symbolism of an inanimate object from a short list of books. I hadn’t read many of the book recently enough to write an essay on the symbolism, so I freaked out. Everyone was feverishly writing and I had nothing. Then, as if a sign from God, it hit me. Lord of the Flies. I knew everything about that book: important sentences, key passages, the characters, and even the symbolism. I closed my eyes and remembered so clearly my teacher saying, “Piggy’s glasses-wise,knowledge,hope.” Four years after reading the book and hearing the lecture, I wrote an essay on the symbolism of Piggy’s glasses, the conch shell and Ralph’s tears as they sailed away from the island. I could not believe it. I was so thankful. I remember every english teach I’ve ever had since kindergarden and each one has made a huge impact on my life. English is a beautiful language and I’m so lucky that I experienced many talented educators who share my same passion. 







Urpitude
n.
Depravity; baseness: "Mr. Castor was fired for moral turpitude."

Tyro
n.
Beginner; person lacking experience in a specific endeavor: "They easily took advantage of the tyro."

Friday, November 11, 2011

11-11-11.

         Today is 11-11-11. The world has not ended, but it is still pretty early in the evening. I had lunch with my middle school boyfriend’s mother. When he and I went to high school our families stayed relatively close although he and I rarely spoke. The last time I saw him I was 16, unsure of myself but ready to get him back. Surprisingly, he had a girlfriend and told me how they met, and how great she makes him feel. I was not upset or hurt, I was jealous. I thought I wanted him so badly, badly enough to wish him unhappiness in his relationship with his new girlfriend, who I envied. At that moment, I felt I would never find anyone as good as him, no one as smart, handsome, or funny. With time, of course I found someone else, someone different, who made me feel wonderful for a long time. We experienced real love, not the middle school play ground puppy love that I thought I wanted to rekindle.
At lunch, his mom and I caught up on six years of my life, her life, her son’s life and it felt incredible. According to her, her son peaked in high school. He is still with the same girl, going to community college to get his AA, then moving to LA to pursue acting. His girlfriend is an “idiot” and they live with her mother who supports them both. To top it off, he is going bald at age 20. She said that over the years she would encourage him to dump his girlfriend and reconnect with me but he ignored her.His mom didn’t have too many good things to say about her oldest son, but she did say that he should “rue the day he hurt such a great girl like me.” That shit CRAY! I sat there and silently congratulated myself, I unintentionally dodged a bullet. 
Over dessert and cappuccinos, she had an amazing idea: he and I meet up today. She called him and told him to meet her at her house because she had a surprise for him, and neglected to say that I was with her. I was a little hesitant because I could see him getting upset that she arranged all this. We arrived at the house and I wasn’t nervous. I wasn’t the 16 year old girl who had no self confidence, I wasn’t unsure of my feelings, I felt like a woman. He was completely shocked. He awkwardly hugged me, then looked at his mother and rolled his eyes. She insisted that he and I take a picture together, so we complied but he didn’t touch me. I was smiling and easy going the whole time because I knew the truth: he wasn’t the same person he was 6 years ago and neither was I. His mom told him my plans for grad school, where I work, and he tried his best to care. He nodded and glared at his mom. It was awkward just sitting in silence with him but it wasn’t uncomfortable. He knew me in a way no one else did, and in some ways, no one else ever will. We were each others first kiss, first relationship, first heart break. I think we will always be special to each other, even in the smallest way. After 10 agonizing minutes, he left. He didn’t hug me or even look at me, I said goodbye and he waved. His mom laughed then said he was probably pissed at her. She’s a funny lady, she’ll do anything for a good laugh. We chatted for a while then she walked me to my car. She said something that will stay with me forever, “Ben, he owns his feelings, forget him. You’re on the right path.” Six years ago, hell even 3 years ago, I would never imagine that I would be better off without him. Things really do happen for a reason, sometimes it takes years to understand it but it is true. Today reminded me that I may have a broken heart now, but my heart has healed before and will heal again. 11-11-11 proved to be a life changing day.






chicanery
n.
deception by trickery

complaisant
adj.
willingly compliant or accepting of the status quo (n: complaisance)

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Do Not Look in the Back of Your Drawers

          Do not look in the back of your drawers. A few days ago I was rummaging through my drawers hoping to find a specific shirt when I came across a wrinkled, grey, v-neck t-shirt. I quickly grabbed the shirt, held it in front of me, then realized this shirt belongs to someone who is thousands of miles away. I smelled it and hoped my olfactory bulbs would tingle with excitement when I smelled a scent that was once so comforting. I could not smell anything but the scent of my room and cedar drawers. I just stood silently with the shirt in hand, almost unable to put it back because I missed the person who once wore it. My mind promptly started to spin out of  control, and wondered if one of my shirts was in Cordoba, Spain at this very moment. I was dragged in to this mental battle with myself because I looked in the back of my drawers. Things that are in backs of drawers, closets, pantries, or even books are meant to stay a mystery until one is ready to explore the reason they were shoved so far away from daylight. Until I am ready to excise this shirt or possible multiple shirts, I am too afraid to look, I will leave it alone back there. If I do not bother it, it will not bother me, hopefully.


Hapless
adj.
Unfortunate

Headlong
adj., adv.
Headfirst; impulsive; hasty. impulsively; hastily; without forethought: "They rushed headlong into marriage."

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Wednesday

        Today was long and tiring and it is only 5 pm. I woke up late for my 9 am class and rather than jumping out of bed as soon as realized the time, I laid there peacefully almost appreciating my incompetent alarm. Lately my emotions have been so inconsistent. Some days I feel strong and ready to begin my newly single life by planning extravagant trips to Europe and sculpting a new body at the gym. Then other days I mope around the house listening to classic love ballads and explaining, in detail, to my friends why I will never experience that kind of love again. I am grateful that I have people in my life who listen to me scream along to Kelly Clarkson’s “Since You’ve Gone,” then morosely whisper the lyrics to Tracy Chapman’s “Love’s Proof.” My wild emotions are somewhat comical and make for decent stories but they eventually wear me down until I collapse into bed earlier than the average fifth-grader. With time my emotions should steady and my energy level will rise but until then, caffeine will be my greatest ally.

volatile
adj.
Explosive; fickle (n: volatility).

voracious
adj.
Craving or devouring large quantities of food, drink, or other things. She is a voracious reader.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Let's Stay Together

     “Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green was once my favorite song. I used to play it over and over again while studying or talking on the phone with my love. I understood every lyric and hummed softly to the laid back rhythm of a very common love story. Now, after a life changing break-up and fully grasping the meaning of a “broken heart,” I cannot tolerate the once soothing sound of “Let’s Stay Together.”


    Never before have I heard this song played on the radio or a television commercial or even randomly selected on my Iphone, until now. I hear this song everywhere and it is driving me insane. I was at my hair salon on Friday, waiting to get my hair shampooed and suddenly over the radio I hear those signature horns and a soft voice whispering, “Let’s Stay Together.” All I could do was sit there in agony praying that the rushing water over my ears would drown out the song, and protect my mind from reliving every memory connected to those lyrics. My prayers were not answered and I sat in a cold chair holding back tears while my hairstylist blew warm air on my face from the hairdryer. At least the bursts of air dried my watery eyes. That was not the last time I heard the song, I accidently heard it twice today on my Iphone and it was also a suggestion on my Itunes account. So many incredible times were created because of this song, like slow dancing in a dorm room at 3 a.m. on our first anniversary. Perhaps that is the reason why I cannot bear to listen to it. “Let’s Stay Together” will continue to woo audiences just as it wooed me because it is a timeless record of human emotion and the bonds of love. Although it haunts me now, I hope one day I can fall back into love with it and reconnect with a song so full of honesty and passion.

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Today Has Finally Come

         Today has finally come. The love of my life will get on a plane heading to Cordoba, Spain for ninety-five days and I am left in San Jose heart broken and lonely. We were best friends for four years until one night we realized our feelings for each other and began the most fulfilling and healthy relationship of our lives, thus far. Long distance relationships are difficult but we persevered, California and Massachusetts are only 3,000 miles away after all. We worked diligently to keep our love alive, frequent phone calls, last minute trips to Boston, weekly letters and countless text messages. We trusted one another with our whole hearts and the moments we spent together were incredibly intense and special. We just celebrated our second anniversary in Pismo Beach at our favorite Inn, leaving my heart warm and filled with hope. 
          Two weeks ago the person who I believed loved me unconditionally ended our relationship and broke my heart. There was not enough explanation to soothe my worrying, yet just enough to keep me up at night. The idea of just being friends with someone whom I imagined marrying, turns my stomach but I have no other choice. Perhaps in ninety-five days our love will make sense again and in fifty years we will laugh about this while sitting on our front porch. Until then, I will continue taking deep breathes and nurse this huge hole in my heart. Today has finally come, and the love of my life could not feel further away.

Vocab Words:
Garrulous
adj.
verbose; talkative; rambling: "We tried to avoid our garrulous neighbor."

Gossamer
n., adj.
fine cobweb on foliage; fine gauzy fabric; very fine: "She wore a gossamer robe."